PoCoMo recognizes that as parents and youth, navigating todays world that is filled with change, challenge, and questioning.
TIPS FOR PARENT(S):
Taking a breath:
Your son or daughter comes home two hours past curfew. They didn't call. They seemed to have been drinking. Your feeling angry because they were late, didn't call, and you were afraid for them. They didn't follow, or respect your rules, or care you may be worried. Your first reaction may to freak out. A few suggestions,
- Take a breath.
- Understand that they know they broke the "rule"
- Ask if they are ok
- Give them a hug
- Get them to bed
- Let them know you will talk in the morning
- Discuss with your partner how you will both talk to your son or daughter in the morning.
Tip: Use "I: messages.
"I feel ______ when you stay out late without calling.
Your out late with friends past your curfew. You have had a drink or two, maybe something else. You get a ride home by someone NOT drinkng etc., and you know your parents will be angry. It usually comes from a caring and fearful place. A few suggestions.
- KNOW THEY ARE JUST WORRIED !!!!
- Own your choices
- Listen to what your parent(s) are saying (hopefully they read the above tips)
- If parents are angry, don't get defensive or lash out
- Ask for a hug and if you can chat in the morning
- In the morning, be prepared to talk and be given consequences (own your choices)
- Acknowledge that in the future you will call if you are going to be late, or need a ride
Keep communication open.
Think ahead before making choices.
For immediate crisis support for victims of family and sexual violence, VictimLink provides information and help 24 hours a day: 1.800.563.0808
If you are a child or youth and need help now, contact the Help Line for Children by calling the operator (Dial 0 - No Charge) and ask for Zenith 1234. Available 24 hours a day.
All the above services are free and confidential.
If you are in immediate danger, call 911 to access police.